This is very helpful….as an ENFJ who is seeing an ISTP….I have felt completely out of my comfort zone. I have a desire to check in constantly, whereas he can go days without any contact. He also enjoys keeping an open/flexible schedule whereas I like to plan our next get together. When we are together….he is fantastic, very caring, protective and helpful. It is during our times apart that I start to ruminate and get concerned. I am going to use the information above to not only tailor my style of showing love for him, but also use how he shows love to back myself off the ledge I seem to find myself on too frequently.